Keolani Young

Yeah.

I don't know who it was that said it, but it was a really good quote.

Good on them.

And I was like, wow, okay, that's really true.

Like if you are coming in with preconceived notions, if you've been with someone for a long time, you've been together since you were 18 years old and now you're in your 40s or something, you might be holding a certain image of this person in your mind that is preventing both of you from evolving.

Your tone.

I know you didn't mean it, but that just hurt me.

And I'll tell my girlfriend things like that.

She's like, oh, I'm sorry, babe.

This is how I meant it.

And I'm like, okay, we're good now.

And we never really fight.

We just talk about things in the moment.

Emotional types always want to talk about things in the moment, I will say.

We always want to have it out in the moment.

We always want to have the truthful discussion.

And not everyone is designed to really have the same capacity for that.

Sometimes we do need to practice patience and waiting and having discussions in a place of emotional peace and clarity and not always having the discussion in the exact moment of when it's happening.

But when we're able to practice that honesty with ourselves and look at ourselves with new eyes, we start to do the same for other people.

I think we naturally start to get curious about other people.