Kerry Washington

If you're gonna do it with real love, then having something deeper to commit to that's bigger than just the two of you is really important. So I think that's where the spirit comes in.

So, I mean, one thing is I'm always careful to talk too much about like the us when he's not in the room, because I feel like. It's interesting. It's sort of like with my kids. I don't post a lot about my kids or talk a lot about their inner lives or their journeys because I feel like their story is theirs and they have a right to tell their story in their way.

So, I mean, one thing is I'm always careful to talk too much about like the us when he's not in the room, because I feel like. It's interesting. It's sort of like with my kids. I don't post a lot about my kids or talk a lot about their inner lives or their journeys because I feel like their story is theirs and they have a right to tell their story in their way.

And I feel that way a little bit about my marriage too. If we were both sitting here, we could kind of agree and co-sign on it. But I would say... The first thing I thought about when you asked me that question is the importance of therapy. Because... Let's go! Let's go! Right? Like, individual therapy, couples therapy. Like, being willing to have spaces... where you do the work.

And I feel that way a little bit about my marriage too. If we were both sitting here, we could kind of agree and co-sign on it. But I would say... The first thing I thought about when you asked me that question is the importance of therapy. Because... Let's go! Let's go! Right? Like, individual therapy, couples therapy. Like, being willing to have spaces... where you do the work.

And I remember my dad one day being like, you guys are in couples therapy, like what's wrong? And we were like, nothing, like nothing's wrong. It is a place where we go to take care of our marriage. In the way that I go to the gym to take care of my body, or I go to the dentist to take care of my teeth,

And I remember my dad one day being like, you guys are in couples therapy, like what's wrong? And we were like, nothing, like nothing's wrong. It is a place where we go to take care of our marriage. In the way that I go to the gym to take care of my body, or I go to the dentist to take care of my teeth,

I feel like as a couple, we deserve and therefore we cultivate a place where we care for our relationship. And it doesn't come out of crisis. It doesn't come out of things that are bad. I mean, in fact, like we spend a lot of time in therapy consciously talking about what we're doing well and acknowledging that. for each other.

I feel like as a couple, we deserve and therefore we cultivate a place where we care for our relationship. And it doesn't come out of crisis. It doesn't come out of things that are bad. I mean, in fact, like we spend a lot of time in therapy consciously talking about what we're doing well and acknowledging that. for each other.

Cause it's really important to not take for granted that there are good things to celebrate and acknowledge about each other. Right. And so that's, I mean, I feel like therapy is a big part of that spiritual commitment. So one of the things I remember my, one of, one of my many therapists saying early on to me was, A healthy relationship is not just about like give and take.

Cause it's really important to not take for granted that there are good things to celebrate and acknowledge about each other. Right. And so that's, I mean, I feel like therapy is a big part of that spiritual commitment. So one of the things I remember my, one of, one of my many therapists saying early on to me was, A healthy relationship is not just about like give and take.

Like I do for you, you do for me. That actually it's important to think about the relationship almost as a third entity that you're both pouring into. It's like a bank account. It's like a spiritual or emotional love account where like I'm not just doing for him and then he owes me. It's like we're both pouring into this thing that matters to us, which is the marriage.

Like I do for you, you do for me. That actually it's important to think about the relationship almost as a third entity that you're both pouring into. It's like a bank account. It's like a spiritual or emotional love account where like I'm not just doing for him and then he owes me. It's like we're both pouring into this thing that matters to us, which is the marriage.

Do you like saying wife?

Do you like saying wife?

I love, I mean, I just love the word husband. I like add multiple syllables. Husband. I love it. Yeah.

I love, I mean, I just love the word husband. I like add multiple syllables. Husband. I love it. Yeah.

Oh, because you went to therapy when things got bad.

Oh, because you went to therapy when things got bad.

But then you learned to choose a partner who was willing to walk that walk with you.