Kevin Twomey

Yeah, I definitely think there's been a bit of a move away from like looking out for one another and community and like it has been pushed by this like online mindset of, oh yeah, well take care of number one.

Yeah, if you don't want to do something and it doesn't serve you, don't do it.

But like,

And essence of that is fine, right?

Ultimately, if you are too exhausted and you've had an awful week and you're really struggling and you don't want to show up to the social function that you had agreed to a couple of weeks back.

Yeah, like obviously we all have our off days and you might want to cancel.

But then like, it's like, yeah, but certain things, like when it comes to good buddies of yours and like, you know, like moments for friends where, you know, it's like a big event, like a friend putting on a show or like, you know, just celebrating a friend who's like done something great in work.

Like you kind of do have to show up even when you don't feel like it.

Yes.

Yeah, you can't do that in a relationship.

There was a call back of like, oh, remember when I did this?

Now, if you were having a conversation with another friend and you were like, oh my God, this person won't even do that for me.

And I did all this for them.

That's kind of understandable, but you can't like...

come into a relationship and be like, oh, well, this should be owed to me because I've done this for you.

No, like anytime you do anything for a friend or for someone you're in a relationship with, it should be done without any expectation of something nice being done for you in return.

Yeah, like it'd be nice if the other person is doing nice things too, but like...

If you are just doing it with the intention of getting one up or being like, okay, well, that's something else that I have in my arsenal, then you're doing it wrong.

I think that's one of the best things and one of the most freeing things that's happened to me in my 30s is like examining some of the friendships that I have and some of the relationships I have with people like

bit more closely or just like realizing or accepting like if those friendships don't serve me as much or if they feel a bit one-sided you know and maybe it's something that like i might have always been acutely aware of but because i was in my 20s and wasn't sure of myself i hated the idea of losing any friendships or relationships yeah like so i would i would