Kim Mills

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1,063 appearances 15 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 2 Sep

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Speaking of Psychology · Encore: Why you should aim to be a “good enough” parent, with Tim Cavell, PhD, and Lauren Quetsch, PhD · 29 Jul 2026 podcast

Because, you know, there's so much pressure on our children these days to be absolutely perfect and spectacular.

So if you're a good enough parent, well, maybe you can be a good enough son or daughter as well.

And I think that that segues into the question that I had where you write about the most important job that parents have is to build a relationship with their children.

And I think that might surprise some people maybe who don't think that they need to build a relationship because they have a relationship.

But what do you mean?

What is the special approach that you recommend that might not be immediately evident to a harried mother or father?

At the beginning of the book, you ask parents to think about their parenting goals, which are not the same as the goals that they might have for their children's future.

What do you mean when you talk about parenting goals?

How should parents set them and how can they stick to them?

So let me pick up from what you've just said, because you're talking about containment rather than discipline.

And in the book, you offer a rule of thumb.

You call it the 80-20 rule.

What is that and how does that work?

I think that you talk about mindful and mindless parenting, and I wanted to talk about the differences between the two, because I think that some of what you're talking about requires a level of mindfulness.

But mindless parenting also has a role, and I think, as you say, it's not because the parent is unplugged or inept, but what are some examples of the two, and how can parents use those techniques to their advantage?

Both of you work with kids who have serious behavior issues in your research and in your clinical work.

Is your advice different for those parents than it is for dealing with run-of-the-mill everyday problems?

Or does the same type of advice apply across the board for all types of families and situations?

And Dr. Quetsch, maybe you could answer first based on your work with disruptive children and those who have autism spectrum disorder.

Dr. Cavell, does that approach work when you're dealing with parents who have children who are bullies or may be bullied?

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