KJ Dell'Antonia
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512 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Nov 2018
last heard Nov 2018
KJ Dell'Antonia’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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The the thing is that it's not just okay, it's important.
It's really good for them to see that their parent can be okay even when they are having a tough time.
And that does not mean
that you know we are dancing around going, ha ha ha ha, I don't have a Spanish test and you do you know, it's not it's it's not like some sort of weird gloating thing.
It's just that, you know, we are our own emotional people and they are their own and we are together and we are sympathetic and empathetic to each other and and aware of one another's moods, but we don't have to absorb one another's moods because
Our kids actually don't want to make us unhappy, uh unlikely as that may seem at certain moments.
They don't like it.
So one of the things that happens if we're too responsive, if we get, you know, if if when they're upset and we're upset, is they start to come home with a problem and they tell you about their problem.
They say, Oh, well, I wasn't invited to the birthday party or I didn't invite and didn't make the team, and you get really upset and
A couple of things happen for them and one is
Oh wow, I didn't think this was that big a deal, but apparently it actually is.
And the other is oh
You know, when I tell my dad about this sort of thing, he gets really upset.
So maybe I just shouldn't tell him.
Because that would be easier.
I'll just keep it in.
Uh, I'll just pretend to be happy.
Even when I'm not, so that he can also be happy.
That this this is so not the goal.
So we don't wanna put the burden of our happiness on our kids.
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