Konstantin Kisin

They probably have the worst view of men ever because they have porn, but then they also have all of this gender discourse online, like we said, which is the hurt, probably resentful, bitter men talking about women.

And so, why would you take the massive risk of having a child with someone and settling down?

I think the root of it is fear and vulnerability.

the first sign of like your partner not being perfect you go okay i know i know what this is this is that thing that i've been told about my entire life when it's just like a person being human yeah i mean it's a self-fulfilling prophecy but with software engineering behind it so you have maybe you have a suspicion about your partner and in the past you talk to friends and family they'd rationalize you and say you know not everyone's perfect

You have a suspicion, so you then accidentally linger over something which is suspicious of men.

And then you get the bombardment of, this is a red flag, you should leave.

You're in danger, essentially.

And I think this is a big part of the...

discussion about young people being so fearful that we miss is that we think of that as, oh, Gen Z are scared to talk on the phone, or they're scared to order in restaurants, which is true.

But we miss that they're actually scared to have a human relationship and they're scared to do things that...

previous generations did really without introspecting and analyzing to the extent that we think you have to.

So I wrote a piece recently where I spoke about my grandparents having children.

And I asked them about getting engaged and having children and why they did it.

And they didn't really have an answer, which to me is insane.

It's like a completely different way of viewing the world.

And I think my generation immediately thinks that is reckless.

We don't think that that's pretty human to meet someone and get married and have children without laying everything out.

I think the assumption we have now is that you have to analyze every possible risk.

Only when you've cleared that risk can you commit to someone.

And I think that's why so many of us are alone.