Konstantin Kisin

It really helps to have someone who thinks more externally and doesn't go inwards.

And women are more prone to going inwards and thinking things over and over and over.

And it just helps to have a partner who can rationalize some of these things for you.

And I think the issue is we're now telling young women there's something wrong with them if they want to depend or if they need help with things.

And I think we put them in a really cruel dynamic where we say, you need to be vulnerable and open up about your feelings all the time.

And, you know, it's really good to be aware of your mental health and to help other people by sharing how you feel.

But then we also say a strong, independent woman never gets jealous.

She never gets insecure.

You know, she never worries about anything.

And so what we often do, I think, is we take girls' instincts and we reframe them as insecurity.

So if you have an instinct to depend on someone, you're just insecure.

Or let's say you have a partner who's addicted to porn and you don't like it.

It will get reframed as you're insecure and you're controlling.

So we take these natural needs and feelings and make girls feel confused about them and then they pathologize themselves and diagnose themselves.

Yeah.

Yeah, I think, I really think therapy speak is ruining our language.

I think that it's...

all of these disorders and diagnosis and even just the therapy way of seeing the world, I think it ruins relationships because it's too much information.

It's too introspective and risk averse.

I think we're also losing the language for personalities.