Kristen Sheeran

And even if you wind up in litigation over custody at a later date, the judge will

generally take those recommendations into consideration as well.

But everything else, your property, your money, your finances, you can contract how you're going to handle that in a divorce at any point during your marriage through a postnuptial agreement.

Yeah, I have.

And they do generally come up when there's an issue in the marriage or someone has messed up and then somebody reconciles.

But again, I think it's a great thing, especially if you're going to make the decision to stay in a marriage because it provides that safety and that security.

And I think it can be a really positive thing.

I've seen quite a bit of creative things in post-nups for second marriages.

And that's something that's really important because oftentimes when you're in a second marriage, you have children by your first marriage.

And so there can be a lot of confusion.

So if you bring...

certain assets to the marriage you can designate that those assets are your separate property you can do that in a prenuptial agreement if you co-mingle those assets together say that you buy a home and you both contribute an unequal portion of money towards the home and then you decide to get divorced that could potentially impact your grown children and their inheritances

and their college funds.

So in a second marriage, a prenuptial agreement is arguably more important, one, because your divorce rates increase, and two, because there are a lot of other people that are potentially impacted by your marriage or your divorce than just the two of you.

You can force transparency.

You can't actually make them do it, but you can build in penalties if they don't.

And I think that that's something that could potentially be very important depending on the nature of your relationship.

And so those things can bring reassurance.

And oftentimes when people feel more secure in their relationships, the relationships last longer.

And if they don't, you built in a penalty where you're reimbursed in the event that they violate the contract.