Kumail Nanjiani

Everything was spiking all at once.

I knew I had an anger issue and I hated myself for that too.

I hated that I had this anger thing.

I'd get very angry and my pattern had become with people I love,

Getting really angry and then saying the thing you can't take back.

And then that would be that would sort of break it.

And then suddenly awful guilt about what I had said.

It was it was.

Oh, my God.

I mean, self-punishment has been a big part of just how I deal with myself forever.

It took me a long time to realize that.

And I think it was just realizing, you know, when I got to my 40s, I've been with my Y family now.

We've been married for 17 years.

realizing this is the person I love most in the world.

I'm making her life difficult because of this and I owe it more to her to be better about this stuff.

We started doing this thing where we had to tell each other three vulnerable things every day when we did that for months.

Could be big, small, whatever.

And that's what made me realize all the things that I thought I hated about myself just makes her love me more.

Yeah, I mean, that's the goal.

It became, I realized, like, oh, you know, people still talk about, like, I don't tell my wife everything.