Kute Blackson

Now we're 35 in a relationship, doing the same thing. And that defense mechanism is holding on ego, holding on. We're holding on so tightly to that way of being in order to never feel that pain again. Hence, we are controlling who we're being and how we're being. And if we think if we can control all these elements, I'm never going to feel pain.

Now we're 35 in a relationship, doing the same thing. And that defense mechanism is holding on ego, holding on. We're holding on so tightly to that way of being in order to never feel that pain again. Hence, we are controlling who we're being and how we're being. And if we think if we can control all these elements, I'm never going to feel pain.

Now we're 35 in a relationship, doing the same thing. And that defense mechanism is holding on ego, holding on. We're holding on so tightly to that way of being in order to never feel that pain again. Hence, we are controlling who we're being and how we're being. And if we think if we can control all these elements, I'm never going to feel pain.

How helpless and how painful it was when I was five and seven, et cetera, et cetera. So if we can just understand, that's how ego starts getting created. Ego, which is the source of resistance, is not a thing. Ego is a process. Ego is a process of identification. Identification with ourselves as name, form, body, with ourselves as that way of being. So for instance, as children, we learned also,

How helpless and how painful it was when I was five and seven, et cetera, et cetera. So if we can just understand, that's how ego starts getting created. Ego, which is the source of resistance, is not a thing. Ego is a process. Ego is a process of identification. Identification with ourselves as name, form, body, with ourselves as that way of being. So for instance, as children, we learned also,

How helpless and how painful it was when I was five and seven, et cetera, et cetera. So if we can just understand, that's how ego starts getting created. Ego, which is the source of resistance, is not a thing. Ego is a process. Ego is a process of identification. Identification with ourselves as name, form, body, with ourselves as that way of being. So for instance, as children, we learned also,

oh, who do I need to be in order to get love, validation, and approval from my parents? Oh, for me, as a kid, I'm a preacher's kid, I learned, oh, if I'm responsible, if I get all A's, if I'm good, if I take care of everyone, if I smile, if I'm nice, if I never feel negative, Everybody loves me. Shit. Let me just do more of that. So, you know, I disconnected and betrayed parts of myself.

oh, who do I need to be in order to get love, validation, and approval from my parents? Oh, for me, as a kid, I'm a preacher's kid, I learned, oh, if I'm responsible, if I get all A's, if I'm good, if I take care of everyone, if I smile, if I'm nice, if I never feel negative, Everybody loves me. Shit. Let me just do more of that. So, you know, I disconnected and betrayed parts of myself.

oh, who do I need to be in order to get love, validation, and approval from my parents? Oh, for me, as a kid, I'm a preacher's kid, I learned, oh, if I'm responsible, if I get all A's, if I'm good, if I take care of everyone, if I smile, if I'm nice, if I never feel negative, Everybody loves me. Shit. Let me just do more of that. So, you know, I disconnected and betrayed parts of myself.

So we learned to develop all sorts of roles, masks, personas, and identity that we learned to become that we think now we can taught ourselves to be this person, Coot, right? Or John or Susan or whatever our name is. We learned to become this person. And we hold so tightly onto that, that gets reinforced by teachers and parents, society and those around us. We think that's who we are.

So we learned to develop all sorts of roles, masks, personas, and identity that we learned to become that we think now we can taught ourselves to be this person, Coot, right? Or John or Susan or whatever our name is. We learned to become this person. And we hold so tightly onto that, that gets reinforced by teachers and parents, society and those around us. We think that's who we are.

So we learned to develop all sorts of roles, masks, personas, and identity that we learned to become that we think now we can taught ourselves to be this person, Coot, right? Or John or Susan or whatever our name is. We learned to become this person. And we hold so tightly onto that, that gets reinforced by teachers and parents, society and those around us. We think that's who we are.

The version of ourselves that we've been patterned and conditioned to be to avoid pain and get love. And now we've become this persona, the overachiever, the successful one, the driven one, the whatever you want to call it, the independent one. And so now we've become this person. We hold so tightly onto that and we think that's who we are. But it's not.

The version of ourselves that we've been patterned and conditioned to be to avoid pain and get love. And now we've become this persona, the overachiever, the successful one, the driven one, the whatever you want to call it, the independent one. And so now we've become this person. We hold so tightly onto that and we think that's who we are. But it's not.

The version of ourselves that we've been patterned and conditioned to be to avoid pain and get love. And now we've become this persona, the overachiever, the successful one, the driven one, the whatever you want to call it, the independent one. And so now we've become this person. We hold so tightly onto that and we think that's who we are. But it's not.

It's just what we've been conditioned to be to survive. And that holding on is the survival mechanism to avoid pain and get love. When we recognize, so we have to realize that we are conditioned. And we're not who we think we are, really. And that's why we often hit a limitation in our adulthood. That's what got us to that point. Cannot get us to that next level.

It's just what we've been conditioned to be to survive. And that holding on is the survival mechanism to avoid pain and get love. When we recognize, so we have to realize that we are conditioned. And we're not who we think we are, really. And that's why we often hit a limitation in our adulthood. That's what got us to that point. Cannot get us to that next level.

It's just what we've been conditioned to be to survive. And that holding on is the survival mechanism to avoid pain and get love. When we recognize, so we have to realize that we are conditioned. And we're not who we think we are, really. And that's why we often hit a limitation in our adulthood. That's what got us to that point. Cannot get us to that next level.

Cannot get us to that level of true, authentic greatness to fulfill our true soul's destiny. It gets us to a point, but we end up reaching the edge of the egos, who we think we are. We end up reaching the end of the ego's capacity to manifest life. And that's often why We have a breakdown. That's often why we get fired in the spiritual context.

Cannot get us to that level of true, authentic greatness to fulfill our true soul's destiny. It gets us to a point, but we end up reaching the edge of the egos, who we think we are. We end up reaching the end of the ego's capacity to manifest life. And that's often why We have a breakdown. That's often why we get fired in the spiritual context.