Laura Danger

Thank you so much for having me.

I'm so excited.

I feel like weaponized incompetence is one of those terms where you hear it for the first time and you go, oh, no, yep, I definitely have experienced that, even if we can't put it to words.

So weaponized incompetence could also be described as strategic incompetence or failing on purpose.

It is a way of doing a bad job, being negligent.

Yeah, basically doing a bad job in order to get out of having to do it again or in order to make someone else do something for you.

This shows up at work.

This shows up in our partnerships and our friendships and our families.

It is a way of skirting accountability or responsibility.

And often it is its power comes from emotional labor.

So emotional labor is, it's the self-editing that you do in order to create an emotional environment or to maintain a relationship.

It is the tone, your body language, the ways that despite how you are feeling in that moment, you are affecting other people.

No.

And there is you bring up a really good point.

So there is emotional labor and cognitive labor are like rope tangled up together.

And this there's this mental load, like you said, of we've got a diaper.

We have to check all of the emails.

We have all of these things on our schedule.

What's in the fridge?

What's coming up in our lives?