Laura Danger

What's happening today?

And all of these things fit together like a big machine.

You need to know all of the parts of it in order for it to run smoothly.

And when you are the one managing all of that, when you're the domestic engineer, the person who is directing and giving directions, there's the mental, the thought and the planning and the scheduling

And there is this work you have to do to get other people to do it while maintaining a positive relationship.

You've got to get your kid to get in the car to go to the doctor appointment and still feel safe.

So there's a ton of emotional, mental energy.

Decision fatigue comes from that.

And that's all invisible work that we wrap up as like a mother's love.

Oftentimes it's very gendered.

And we're taught that this is how things are.

It's just this invisible stuff that just happens in our lives.

This is just what happens.

And so it is not always malicious, but sometimes it is.

It's not.

And you know what's really interesting about this is a lot of people will get into a partnership and say, you know, we both believe in equity.

We want an equal partnership.

And one person will do a ton of planning and coordinating and making decisions that are thoughtful of the family unit.

And then we'll ask the other partner, yes or no, do you agree?

And then after the fact, if they have given their opinion, they both get equal credit for making that decision.