Laura Danger

There is this illusion that you have now collaborated on something because one person did this massive amount of planning and the other person said yes or no.

It's very unfair.

This is the norm.

This is the standard.

This is across the board.

And it's not always in heterosexual, cishet relationships.

This is something that you see across the board in many types of relationships, but it's very heteronormative.

And this, again, this is the norm in most households.

There is inequity in the cognitive and emotional and physical labor.

Yes.

It doesn't seem to matter whether a woman is making less as much or more.

than her partner, the only time you see a slight small smidge of a difference is if she is the sole breadwinner.

And even then, it's not in the way that we would hope that it would be.

I think one of the most obvious ones is with the groceries.

So a lot of times someone will say, like, I know, you know, the groceries are such a stress for you.

You're always talking about the meals.

Let me take it over.

And then they will say, just give me a list and I will go to the store.

Or even I will cook the dinner or just let me know what you want.

I'll go order something for the family.