Laura Danger

That does not solve the problem.

Exactly.

That's I hear that a lot about like, oh, great.

You get the shortcut meal now that you've taken that off my plate.

Now I can't have the shortcut meal later in the week.

Exactly.

You didn't tell me what to get.

That's the other part of it is when there is one person managing more of the mental and emotional load, they get blamed when things fall apart for not giving directions or not asking nicely enough or not thinking all of those things through.

It sure can.

And unfortunately, it is a bit of an embarrassing issue because that sort of inequity does not align with the values a lot of people talk about or proclaim to have.

And so...

I talk to a lot of people who behind closed doors are sort of protecting this inequity and this resentment that happens privately at home because they don't want to embarrass.

They don't want to reveal this sort of painful dynamic that so many, even the most progressive, like feminist people, this is happening behind closed doors.

There are.

Thankfully, there are many answers.

And it really, it's a couple of things.

And I hate to boil it down to this simple, but a lot of it is changing the framing as to how we look at this work.

This is valuable work.

This is work that really is the core of our lives, that make our lives unique, is the decisions and values and ways that we shape our lives.

And when you are building a life with someone, it is a collaborative effort.