Laura Danger

And I'm sure as I say this, there are going to be so many people nodding along.

But think about how many bosses do not know how to open a PDF.

Like it's always the upper management who doesn't know how to manage their own schedule or do the tiny things that really make their workplace run.

Right.

Well, you actually did something really interesting there, which is you talked to that person about it and you laughed.

That is a huge, hugely important part of this.

If we are overly defensive, if you are making an emotional environment where another person can't come to you to talk about or problem-solve something—

That's when weaponized incompetence really becomes very harmful because you're making it a hostile environment and discouraging actual problem solving.

You are putting the other person in a place of not wanting to ask for help or not expressing how the harm is actually harming them.

That is where relationships erode and fall apart and where it becomes really damaging.

You really want to own your part of it and, yeah, take responsibility not only for problem solving, the actual skill or the task you're doing, but the emotional part.

I it's as simple as a household that reflects who you are.

It is a household that doesn't subscribe to outside pressures for it to look a certain way or be divided a certain way.

50-50 is not necessarily the goal, but working with what capacity you have that, of course,

changes, ebbs and flows because we are living people.

But one where I like to think you could jump into each other's shoes in a way that meets the family's needs when you both understand how the household functions or could make thoughtful decisions that considers everyone's needs short-term and long-term.

It is, I believe for many people, a process.

You aren't just overnight going to go from like the inequity of giving a

to suddenly being totally collaborative on everything.

But starting small, even on like, hey, our coffee table broke, instead of the person who usually researches it taking it, let's do this together.