Laura

So we are at kind of a junction where we decide either we want to go IVF or we want to go adoption.

And in my mind, I'm thinking I'm never going to be pregnant because I'm being punished.

So even if we go IVF, it's not going to work.

We're

logically it's around the same amount of money to go either path for us.

So we're not going to go that way because it's just not going to work for me.

I know it right now, even not considering science or medicine or anything like that.

I'm just in my gut.

I know that's not going to work.

So we decided to go the adoption route and

There's a lot of stuff we have to do to prepare for it.

Like we bought a house and then we saved up our money and stuff.

And then we finally found an agency and everything worked out the way that we wanted it to, to start the process for adoption.

And we have one of the most unusual adoption cases because we had five adoption failures in a row before we got our son.

And everybody that I spoke to, even we had two separate agencies that we had our kind of like a broker almost where people like the birth mothers contact them and they connect you with a birth family.

But there's also a separate agency that does all of like the paperwork, like the home study, and you have to get a foster license technically before you adopt.

So all of that, like,

bureaucracy kind of stuff is a different agency but everybody I'm talking to at both agencies are like I've never seen somebody go through this many failures ever and why was it a failure so just like multiple different factors multiple different factors and I can kind of talk about them I won't go into too much detail because they're not my stories to tell yeah you know

And a birth mom has every right to keep her kid for whatever reason up until the point of when they terminate their rights.

And so the very first one, I remember being very skeptical about it and my husband being very optimistic about it.