Lauren Smith Brody

Well, they must have do something right if it's something that made it onto their list and they actually did it that day.

So be that person.

Yeah.

And I say this as a person who's like made a second career out of vulnerability and like being a little bit of a mess and comfortable with that because we can't fix things.

We can't fix challenges we can't see.

And so like, yes, have the spit up on your sweater and tell people that's what it is.

Or, you know, if you're exhausted and stumbling over your words, go ahead and say, I didn't sleep last night because what that says is not I'm weak and I didn't sleep last night, but like I have a whole life beyond here and I still showed up.

I'm still here because this is still important too.

Yes.

Yeah.

I think that all, there's another aspect to that, which is also that, you know, it's a little bit like, have you heard the concept of the good enough mother?

This is like, I think it's from like the seventies maybe, but it's, it was a sociologist named Wood, correct me if I'm wrong, Woodicott, Woodicombe, Woodicott, I think, who looked at, actually researched that, that if you're too good of a mom, it's actually not great for your kids.

You want to be like, you want to be like a B plus A minus.

because it teaches them independence.

It teaches them how to do things for themselves and how to advocate and that life is not perfect.

And it's actually ultimately builds a sturdier, stronger kid.

So I think about that a lot.

And I think about it in the context of the paid work that we do too, because yeah, like we are sort of many of us, particularly, you know, once by the time you've like climbed the ladder enough to get to where you want to achieve, it's like,

We're so programmed to over-deliver.

We're programmed to want to succeed.