Leah Ruppanner

This is another thing.

Men who are carers at home, who engage in the primary care of children and taking care of the

They're more balanced.

Kids come to them when they are hurt.

What a loss for all of us to not have the gift that is men's care, the gift that is men's love, the gift that's men's engagement.

And then to say to women, you're just really good at that at home, but you're super distracted at work.

What a loss for us in the workplace to not have the incredible talents that women bring.

Talents they develop in part through their ability to care, empathy, adaptability, time management, creative thinking.

Start to see which, where is it going in these eight mental load categories?

Like how much is going where and in what capacity?

The next thing I ask you to do is start to think about whether these things are drains or

Or whether they're credits, because sometimes we'll do things that we love and it can be a drain and a credit.

Sometimes we can do some things that are like good and bad, right?

Because the world is often not black and white.

Then I start to ask you to start thinking about if you could dream, like if you could dream and go in any direction you want, your life was your own, what would you do?

And then I ask you to start thinking about how do you align your mental load spending in that way?

How do you hold on to the things that you have to do?

How do you hold on to the things that you want to do?

How do you make sure that not every day, because I know that's unrealistic, but you're clear on where you're going and you're using your mental load energy to get there.

First, I want to validate that feeling.