Leah

couldn't set boundaries with their ex and it came down to they just said in the end that I'm not going to change the dynamic over here so you either take it or leave it and at that time it was like I knew I couldn't stay in that relationship if things didn't change and so I left that relationship and never looked back and I think looking into this relationship pulls very different in how

Like, I know he's like a genuine person.

And I truly believe that.

But it was hard to grapple with, is this fear that he can't acknowledge or admit?

Or is it that he truly wants to keep this amicable co-parenting relationship that he claims for the sake of his child, even though it's impacting whether we can go on a vacation, it's impacting whether

I want to move in with him.

It's impacting whether we want to start a family together.

And so I think I really struggled with that, but, and that was before that was when I wrote in and now there's been a lot of revelations and he's been doing counseling and he's

pushed for this separation agreement.

And so I think now we're able to talk about his relationship from a different perspective where he can acknowledge with me, whereas before he couldn't do that.

And so I think for me, it was like, it was getting to the point where it was like, I need to leave this relationship.

Like it doesn't feel safe for me.

Yeah.

And I think I've never wavered on his intention to like make this relationship work too.

I think that's the difference.

Whereas in the last relationship, it got to the point where it was like,

Just like very clear in the sand.

We did couples counseling for a while and it just wasn't working.

And so I had no problem in that relationship walking away.

And I never, we didn't have a kid together in that relationship, but I never spoke to them again.