Lewis Howes

And when people conclude that when they can't solve their marriage, that something is actually wrong with the relationship.

So the approach is wrong.

Your marriage is a right brain phenomenon.

You'll never solve it.

You only live in it and love in it.

It's a permanent state of disequilibrium.

That's what your marriage is supposed to be.

My wife might be totally pissed off at me at the end of the day.

I know she loves me.

We'll have a conflict.

I know we'll have a conflict.

We'll have 10,000 arguments.

Because of me, because of her, because we're human beings living in this complex relationship.

The number one thing is not understanding the nature of living with another person is what it comes down to and appreciating the complexity of that and trying to force it into this complicated problem that you can Google, that you can ask ChatGPT.

You see, we think that those are the things, those, and those are, yeah, and this is the wrong kind, in other words, they're dealing with the wrong kind of problem.

That's number one.

Number two is that the way that we've now entered into relationships is through complicated tools.

So you don't just meet somebody and let sparks fly a little bit.

It's funny because the way that the human brain is designed for relationships to start is kind of a four-step neurochemical process.

Number one is attraction.