Lewis Howes

I'm more about getting it done.

I want to get home to my kids and my family.

I hope that's okay with you.

When we're together, if it's all right, I might skip lunch and just have us work it out and be really efficient.

I really appreciate how efficient you are because it allows me to get home to my kids faster.

Like that's authentic.

So what can you appreciate about them that's competent?

What can you highlight about them that's competent?

And that's a weird way to work.

I mean, this depends on how you feel, but I would say deal with it.

Like, go to your boss.

Yeah.

You say, like, I don't know how I can work with this person.

I don't want to be unauthentic, but I'm telling you that we're not getting stuff done and they are causing issues on the team.

Like, I don't like to ignore that stuff.

Like, you could hope it gets better, but ask for help.

If you have someone on your team or someone in your life who is not warm nor competent and doesn't treat you with warmth or competence, either get them out of your life, set a boundary, or get help.

Yeah, don't live with it.

Life is too short to feel fakely competent or fake warmth.

Yeah.