Lewis Howes

Oh, I don't know if this has ever happened to you.

But this has happened to me a lot in the past.

And I have learned painful lesson over and over again.

And now I'm clear.

I've had different friends ask me for money.

And I once told a friend that I wouldn't lend them any money.

But...

Somehow they convinced me to do it and I caved.

And it was the worst experience for about a year of just stress.

And then they asked me for more money later.

And it was just like, I didn't have the courage to say no and create a boundary.

Therefore I caved and did something out of guilt that I didn't want to do.

And it ruined a friendship in my life.

It ruined it.

It really made me feel like I resented the person for asking me these things, for them receiving this.

I resented myself

for not creating a boundary.

The relationship just got messy and it really hurt the relationship in the process.

And again, it was all because I didn't have a healthy boundary.

And all I needed to do was say, I love you so much that I can't do this for you right now.