Lewis Howes

Or if I'm going to lend this to you, if I want to give you money, I am not going to ask for it in return.

and I know I'm just gifting this to you and I don't expect you to pay it back.

Because when someone, I would give it to them and say, I'll pay you back by this time.

And when they don't do it by that time, I get really frustrated.

Specifically, if they'd say, hey, I can't do it by this time and I'm going to recommit to doing it a few months later.

especially when they don't say that and they just forget the time and they don't pay, it makes me feel disrespected.

But I didn't create the respect in the first place by creating a boundary.

So this was a big lesson.

And the more I did this in the past, the more people would just keep asking, keep pushing back their commitments.

And it was just a struggle.

Respect showed up when I followed through with action.

So the action step here is to look at one area in your life where people are crossing your boundaries.

And you may not even be aware of this right now.

You need to start reflecting on this.

In my intimate relationship, is my spouse crossing a boundary?

In my friendships, my family relationships, my siblings, my parents, my coworkers, my boss, whatever it may be, a network that I'm in, a club that I'm in,

associations, is anyone crossing a boundary to me?

Maybe they're not intentionally trying to cross a boundary, but where inside of you does it feel like someone might be crossing a boundary where you feel like, ah, this doesn't feel good when I do this.

Maybe I like that they reach out to me because I feel needed and wanted.

But if you're doing something out of guilt, rather than out of service, because you really want to, there's a different energy tied to it.