Lewis Howes

I go, I can join the club now.

and I go down and we're in the basement and I give them the money and they take the money and they go hang out in the corner of the basement by themselves for the next hour and I just sit kind of alone.

So I wasn't smart enough to have friends to know the answers to some questions.

The money I needed to buy friends with didn't even work because they still didn't hang out with me.

Now that created a psychological wound inside of me that just said, you're not enough.

You're not smart enough.

You're not good enough.

You're not worthy enough.

You're not lovable enough.

You're not likable enough.

So it created this kind of like psychological wound where I felt like I needed to do everything to get people to like me.

And it took a long time for me to unwind and heal from that wound that made me feel like I wasn't enough.

And it took me learning the hard way how to create boundaries.

But I'm telling you, if you are in a situation right now where you feel like you're not enough, if you're in a situation where you feel like you need to overextend yourself for people to like you or to be friends with you, I'm telling you right now, that's not true.

telling you you are enough, you're lovable, you're worthy, you're desirable, but you have to learn how to do that and believe that for yourself first before you get other people to believe that.

You have to stop overextending yourself all the time.

you have to start making healthier boundaries within yourself and communicating those boundaries again, in a kind and clear way with yourself first and with others second.

And when you start practicing this over and over again, it's not gonna be comfortable.

It's not gonna be easy.

It's not gonna be enjoyable or fun.