Lewis Howes

Yeah, and that's why I love that you wrote this book, Notes on Being a Man.

And it's one of the reasons why eight years ago I wrote The Mask of Masculinity because I went down my own path of...

realizing and coming to the awareness that all of these shootings, most of the domestic violence in the USA, in the world, and just any destruction happening in the world is typically from men who haven't healed their traumas or haven't created a healthy, conscious respect about themselves and having more tools on how to navigate society and the world better.

And the mass shooters that you're talking about, they have a lot of traumas that they haven't healed yet.

They haven't processed the wounds of whatever they've gone through.

They don't have good relationships.

They're isolated.

They're alone.

Or at least that's how probably they're feeling.

And they don't have the tools on how to navigate their mind or their emotions on how to get beyond those things that are destructive.

And I think that's what you've been talking about in Notes on Being a Man is how to...

overcome the loneliness feeling, the sadness, the lack of resourcefulness, and having the courage to be in the world, dealing with failure over and over and over again, and not going back into a cave in your your parents basement saying this girl rejected me or this guy made fun of me.

I'm worthless.

Now I'm traumatized, and I'm going to go destroy the world around me.

And I think when men, especially younger boys, because I was very internally destructive most of my life, I said a lot of mean things to myself.

I'd physically hurt myself.

I was never like cutting myself or like going into alcohol, but it was more like, how can I get into as many fights as possible to be destructive, to inflict pain on myself and other people?

Thankfully, sports gave me a safe outlet to do that where I could do it in a constructive way, but I was still

destructive in the process of wanting to inflict as much pain on myself and others.

Because I just felt like I was bad and wrong.