Lewis Howes

I felt shameful growing up dealing with sexual abuse from a man that I didn't know.

I felt like I was worthless.

Yep.

My brother was in prison for four years when I was eight.

So just the stress of that on the family dynamics, my parents going through divorce.

Listen, I was a white man born in Ohio in America.

So I was born on third base in some ways.

but that doesn't hold back the psychological stress and mess that I had to deal with.

And a lot of people have to deal with.

So I could have been completely destructive, but there was different moments in my life and different mentors, like you mentioned, there's a lack of now,

that came to me and gave me a high five, that put their arm around me emotionally, spiritually, physically, and said, why are you so destructive?

Why are you trying to hurt yourself so much?

Why are you reacting this way?

Like, why are you getting so angry of the littlest things?

Like, come over here.

And I had mentors, and I allowed myself to be coached by mentors.

I didn't push them away.

I seeked it out as well.

And there were different seasons in life and stages that I had to fail over and over again and realize, oh, this behavior is not supportive to me or other people.

It's hurting people around me, friends, family, girlfriends, whatever it might be.