Lewis Howes

What really is motivating you more?

And again, this is not to live a life of vice.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

No, this just means you're trying to find what actually would lead you astray.

The one that I care about the most?

The fact that you're concerned.

Yeah.

indicates that you're self-aware, but that is the tendency.

Here's the deal, when you were a kid, when you were a kid, you learned something about yourself, which is that you got attention and affection when you did stuff.

And you felt crummy about yourself when you weren't able to do things.

Why?

Because you had a learning disability, which made it hard for you to do things, made you feel crummy about yourself.

But then when you achieved, especially as an athlete, that adults gave you attention and affection.

And what you learn from that is that love is earned.

You learn that love is earned.

That's actually wrong, by the way.

Martha doesn't love you because of what you give her.

She loves you as a grace.

Love is a free gift freely given.

It is.