Lewis Howes

People will, homo sapiens, we're weird, dude.

We will choose specialness over happiness all day long.

Can you be special and happy at the same time?

Of course, except there are sacrifices in your specialness that you need to do what every other person can do because we are built to love each other.

We are built to love our kids.

We are built to...

to serve our marriages.

We're built to do that, and it's not special because everybody can do it.

And here's the thing, most people would look at you and say, man, if I had Lewis Howells' money and prestige, then I would actually be happy, but I can't get it, so okay, I guess I'll do this dumb thing.

I'll just take my kid to the park and play ball.

That's the secret.

And because they feel like they can't be special, then they choose the happiness and they have a good life.

Well, they're unsatisfied with what they actually have.

And so they want that thing and they don't get that thing.

They're frustrated about that thing.

And they're also all missing the opportunity to do the things that they need to do.

And there's a lot of desperation that goes into that.

I wind up talking about that an awful lot in just my general work on the science of happiness.

Yes, yes.

But when it comes to the struggle, the striving and this paradox of striving, this is your whole audience.