Lisa Bilyeu

But if I tie an identity to only that, now you can see I'm not even happy or validating myself that I wrote a book.

It's abstract.

It has nothing to do with work, but I'm building the validation within myself because I said I was going to do something and I'm working every day to achieve it.

I'm actually invalidating myself that I didn't hit New York Times number one.

So be careful of what you identify, whether that's in a title, right?

The same with a book.

I said I'm going to write a book.

I'm going to build my validation every day in working on the book.

Whether it's just a job description.

So right now, my job description technically is I'm president of impact theory.

I said I was going to write it and I freaking wrote the book.

I love that.

I need to be proud that I wrote the book.

But I want to make sure every quarter I go back to Lisa, do you still want to be the president of impact theory?

And the problem is if you start to identify as, let's say, I want to be number one New York Times bestseller.

Because the identity I know too well will keep me trapped.

I do want to be that.

But if I tie an identity to only that, now you can see I'm not even happy or validating myself that I wrote a book.

And the validation of being in front of amazing women like yourself, where you're like, oh my God,

God, impact theory is so great.