Lisa Bilyeu
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
He wouldn't want to talk about work.
He wouldn't even ask me about my day because he's miserable.
Now, imagine I build my validation on how he greets me every day.
If he comes home and he's like, babe, you're amazing.
You're such a great wife.
Look at all this, right?
On those days, I feel amazing.
On the days that he feels terrible, that he hasn't slept well, that shit hits the fan, work isn't going well, he's had employees, people have quit, and he comes home and he doesn't even notice that he's got his food cooked.
Yeah, because now you're dependent on other people.
You're dependent on how they feel, what their mood is, what they're going through, what their hormones are, what's happened in their life.
So I was relying on my husband to absolutely validate me.
He doesn't even notice that I've cooked and cleaned.
Then I interpret that as my validation of maybe I haven't done a good job.
But he would go to work.
He would come home.
He would have a hard day at work.
He would be miserable.
But it's all reliant on him and what he does.
He wouldn't want to talk about work.
He wouldn't even ask me about my day because he's miserable.