Lisa Kayes

The nature of travel is that you don't know what's coming and there are often glitches.

When we're at home and we have glitches, we know how to handle them.

We know kind of what the routes are.

If we need to make a detour, we know where the detour goes.

We can get reoriented.

But when you're traveling, there's this unknown piece about it that I think adds layers of stress.

But then when you're also trying to manage social dynamics, so you're also trying to be nice and be friendly and have your best face forward, it's almost like it's too much.

For instance, if you are traveling and somebody has the intention of sitting on the beach reading books and just vegging out and doing nothing and someone else thinks that they're going on a sightseeing tour, you're going to have instant conflict.

And so you want to really talk about, you know, what are we looking for internally?

in this trip.

I'm going to a conference this weekend, and people will be, you know, hanging out, partying, doing all this fun stuff late into the night.

And at 9 o'clock, I'm like, peace, you guys.

I'm going to my room.

I just can't do it.

I always do this look at like how much group time where do I get my alone time figuring out what are the things I'd want to do alone and then if I am traveling with somebody letting them know that and just making sure that that works in terms of what they're wanting and that it's not personal at all that this is something I'd be doing even if I was hanging out with like my favorite celebrity that I thought was super cool I might still be like I have to go to bed at nine o'clock okay I'm tired like I gotta read

Yeah, I know.

Or George.

I know, George.

I just I have to go recharge.

You know, that's just how it is.