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Group Travel: How To Keep The Peace

24 Jul 2019

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Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?

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16.433 - 39.337 Elise Hu

Hey, let's go on a trip together. Let's get a bunch of friends or a few couples and I'll do a getaway. It sounds like an awesome idea at first. But say you're abroad in Africa and someone gets left out. I can remember being so angry. Or you're the lone introvert among a group of raging extroverts in the Balkans. It turned out to be one of the worst journeys I've ever been on in my life.

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39.798 - 42.201 Elise Hu

Or people start hooking up on a semester abroad.

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42.641 - 49.63 Janet Webster

Couples started really quickly in the beginning and by the end had completely ruined the group dynamic.

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49.95 - 52.754 Elise Hu

Frayed nerves add to tension on getaways.

53.174 - 58 Akeem Bruce

I had a time. Obviously not the way that you want the trips to go.

Chapter 2: What are the common challenges of group travel?

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And if you're not careful, that big camping trip you agreed to, the one that's supposed to be a fun time, is the last time for your friend group.

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65.196 - 67.761 Janet Webster

And we haven't done any group traveling since then.

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67.801 - 92.518 Elise Hu

It's vacation season. Getting together your favorite people for a getaway can make for great memories. But none of us want to make the kind of memories that we'll have to block out. This is your NPR Live Kit on navigating group travel. We've talked with conflict coaches, therapists, group tour guides, and globetrotters of all sorts to prepare you with the emotional goods for group travel.

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93.139 - 112.614 Elise Hu

I'm Elise Hugh, a correspondent based at NPR West in Culver City. And those were the voices of Ariel Seabright-Wu, Amy Cato, Janet Webster, Akeem Bruce, and Heather Stevens. They are listeners whose relationships were put to the test, or worse, destroyed by traveling together. The goal sounds simple in theory but can be tough in practice.

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To have a good time while avoiding the pitfalls and personality clashes that can come with traveling as a group. Surviving. No, thriving when you travel with other people. That's after the break.

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149.02 - 155.946 Elise Hu

Travel and together can be a tricky combo because going away itself is already a lot on your senses.

156.328 - 160.684 Lisa Kayes

The nature of travel is that you don't know what's coming and there are often glitches.

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This is Lisa Kayes, Peace Corps volunteer turned therapist in private practice in Washington, D.C. She provides psychotherapy to individuals, couples and groups.

Chapter 3: How can you align expectations before a trip?

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It gives a little more magic to everything.

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948.693 - 954.408 Elise Hu

Janet Webster was the seventh wheel on a group study abroad semester in sub-Saharan Africa.

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954.749 - 978.915 Janet Webster

We would all be playing cards and then someone would be like, hey, do you want to go on a walk? And not invite anyone ever except for the person that they invited. ended up being in a relationship with. I mean, these people just met. It was my good friend who was part of this, and I snapped at her and I was like, you should not do this this early because you don't know anything about him.

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978.975 - 981.218 Janet Webster

All you know is that he also speaks English.

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981.619 - 987.647 Elise Hu

This is a common one in group travel if you're not already paired up. The everyone's hooking up scenario.

988.068 - 1012.488 Janet Webster

And they got together and then broke up and then got back together. And so for the rest of the trip, we were all forced to sit at tables with several pairs of exes and exes. who knew each other, and people who were dating your ex. Like, that was all happening in this seven-person group while we were already dealing with the stress of traveling.

1012.768 - 1025.31 Elise Hu

If you broaden this problem, dyads and triads of cliques also break out in the group, so you could run into similar issues there. Therapist Lisa Kay says having an inclusive group means making one another feel included.

1025.33 - 1029.156 Lisa Kayes

I think couples do change the dynamic of groups.

1029.136 - 1041.609 Elise Hu

Kate says, well, we can't stop people from falling in love or lust. If they do, takeaway number six is this. If your travel group starts pairing off, couple drama doesn't get to dominate the group dynamic.

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