Lisa Miller

And one of the biggest things that changed is that they completely stopped having sex.

When I met them, they hadn't had sex since she started taking the drugs, which was almost a year.

And Javier told me that he really missed it.

And he missed her, and he missed her body.

They both talk about the loss of her butt.

Are there things you miss about your previous body?

My butt.

They both loved her butt.

This, like, physical connection that they had has completely changed into something else.

And neither one of them knows exactly how to find it again.

But for you, the voluptuousness was erotic, right?

It's not as accessible.

I mean, that's what Javier's theory was, is maybe.

There's some evidence that these medications decrease sex drive, but there's more that they increase it.

And Jean has different theories of the case.

She's gone through menopause.

She's been on antidepressants for a really long time.

And both of those things are known to suppress sex drive.

But I think there's actually something bigger at work here.

She started to be able to draw boundaries between doing things for other people because they want them and being able to articulate what she wants.