Liz Feldman
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266 appearances
1 recordings
1 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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And I appreciate that she saw me, but she almost like saw me too well. It's like, you know, she saw the x-ray version of me where, you know, like it was bones and everything. And I wasn't really ready for that. And I was mostly not ready to tell my father who at the time was quite homophobic. And so I was like, please don't tell dad. I mean, it's 1994. Yeah. 1994. So please don't tell dad.
And then, of course, that night, my father, who's like very Brooklyn, comes home and he's like, your mother said you might have something that you might want to talk about. You having some questions. And I'm like, let me tell you who I don't want to ask these questions to.
So I said, I just I have to say I really admire myself at that age because I was very self-centered. I don't know. I felt I was self-possessed and I said, yeah, you know, I have been having questions, but it's okay. You know, and, uh, you know, I think I like girls, but I also like boys and blah, blah, blah. And he kind of started to cry, which was very shocking because he's a really tough guy.
And then he said he wanted me to go get my head checked by a psychiatrist. And I said, I'll only go if you come with me.
And I was like, it was just such a weird time.
So we went and I was 17. All I really cared about was driving. Like I wasn't ready to like profess anything about who I would be or end up being with or anything like that. So we go all together. She gives me a psychological evaluation. We all meet separately with her. Then we all meet together as a family with her.
She said I was the most mentally stable teenager she had ever had in her office and that I didn't need therapy, but she recommended that my parents stay on. Wow.
I swear to God, we walk out of her office. My father gave me the keys to the car. It's the first time they let me drive the car home.
I've written a version of it. I did a short film with my sister, Rebecca Feldman, who's a very talented writer and director in her own right. We did a short film called My First Time Driving. But I should say it's worth a revisit. It's worth a revisit.
It was, it really was. And my parents had marital problems and I realized too, it was my mother who had sort of whispered in my ear saying, tell your father that you won't go to therapy without him.
And it was because she really wanted to go to therapy with him.
And she was sort of trying to save her relationship. And, you know, spoiler alert, they're divorced. And but, you know, that was the beginning, certainly, of seeing them as fallible, you know, vulnerable people for sure.
Yeah, exactly.
Yes. And I think it's because my mom ultimately is a very liberal and very accepting person. I think she knew who I was for long before I did. And I think she knew that I had a father that would be oppositional to that. And I think she was also trying to sort of, you know, embolden me and protect me. and also literally change him.
And it took a minute, but he is a totally evolved person in that way. He's 88 years old. He was- Midlife? Yeah, midlife. God willing, I hope so. But like, you know, he like gave a beautiful toast at my wedding. And, you know, I mean, like he has really come around.
You really do. You really do. And I have to credit the fact that my father married a woman 30 years younger than him. after my parents got divorced. And so she has really helped him modernize. But can I just say that question you asked earlier of when you were asking, what's the age that you wish that you could be? My answer is 35.
Because I got married at 35 and that was such a lifelong goal of mine that I thought would never be possible to be married.
Yes.
Yeah. Yeah, it's true. I mean, like, so. So, yeah, this sort of pointed to have have said that. But I, you know, when I was growing up for most of my adulthood, gay marriage was not legal.
And I took it so personally because why is that a dream I'm not allowed to have? And so when I finally met my wife, I was 31 and we didn't get married till I was 35 because it literally was illegal because of Prop 8. And at a certain point I got so mad that I was waiting for like a lot of change to do a thing that I felt very inherently, you know, was it my right?
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