Logan Urie

And the hesitator has unrealistic expectations of themselves.

So she might be waiting until she's 100% ready to start dating, whereas she should start before she's ready so that she can get better at dating.

What I would say to her is that I think she should take the post-date eight after every date because that's an opportunity for her to check in with herself.

Am I going on dates that make me feel comfortable?

What side of myself are people bringing out?

It sounds like she's a little disconnected maybe from her body or what she wants or what makes her happy.

And the closer that she can get to understanding herself and what she wants, the sooner she'll find a relationship.

Because people who don't know themselves can go on a hundred dates and then say, there's no good girls out there.

There's no good guys out there.

Well, statistically, you probably met someone who would have been great, but you didn't know what to look for because you don't even know yourself.

When I work with clients who are burned out and not putting themselves out there, I do tell them you can take a break from dating.

Sometimes people date in a way that's not sustainable.

And I did this myself.

I remember when I was on the apps and I was dating, I once went on eight and a half dates in one week.

And it was so crazy.

I was going on the date saying, did I already tell you this?

Did I tell you the story already?

I couldn't keep track of who I was talking to.

It wasn't fun and I got burned out.

It wasn't sustainable.