Logan Urie

Maybe you want to kiss or do a little bit more than that after prom.

But you're not thinking about, will this person pick up my kids from the dentist?

Does this person have a lot of debt?

Are they financially responsible?

But at a certain point in life, probably a certain number of years before you want to get married...

you should start shifting your mindset towards looking for different qualities.

And so many of my clients in their 30s and 40s who are single are still looking for the prom date and they don't understand why they haven't found love or haven't found a great partner.

So first I would tell Yuna to make that shift.

Now I'll talk about the research on what matters more and less than people think they do for long-term relationship success.

So the first one is looks.

We love an attractive person.

I want you to feel into the person that you're with.

But what the research shows is that over time, we adapt to whatever we have and we appreciate somebody's looks less.

So I like to joke that behind every hot person is somebody who's sick of having sex with them.

So looks are great, but you don't want to spend all of your metaphorical coins just on the looks department.

The next thing that people think matters more than it does for long-term relationship success is money.

Look, money is great.

It can make life a lot easier, but it's not the only thing.

And I feel like it's such a shame when people get into relationships with people who they're not a good fit with, who they're not interested in because of just money.

And so I think we can all acknowledge the power and the freedom that money gives you, but it matters less than people think it does for long-term relationship success.