Logan Urie

The next two are shared hobbies and similar personalities.

You do not need to have identical hobbies to your partner as long as you both give each other space to explore your separate hobbies.

And for similar personalities, I often feel like people make this mistake, especially someone like me or some of my friends.

If you had two of you in a relationship, that's way too much.

You actually want someone who balances you out.

Yeah, so I just gave you a list of what matters less than people think they do for long-term relationships.

But for Yuna and for all the listeners, I really want them to know what matters more than people think they do.

Great.

And when I've asked people to come up with this list themselves, the first one is emotional stability.

How does somebody respond in different situations?

Are they able to take that pause between stimulus and response?

And can they be emotionally stable?

The next one is kindness.

This is so underrated.

How does that person treat someone who they don't need anything from?

Then loyalty.

Does this person help their friends move?

Does this person have friends from a long period of their life?

If they're loyal to their friends, they're much more likely to be loyal to you.

The next one is a growth mindset.