Logan Urie

Do you feel like you're just born with the skills you have?

Or do you feel like life is something where you can continuously get better?

And why a growth mindset matters is when your relationship hits those inevitable rough spots, don't you want your co-pilot to be a person who's ready to tackle them head on?

Then the ability to fight well together.

It's not looking for someone with whom you don't fight with at all.

It's understanding, can we fight in a way where we're positive, we're on the same team, we're working on the same outcome.

And then the last one is really my favorite, which is what side of you do they bring out?

Oh, I love that.

This is something that people in their 20s, really people of all ages get wrong.

So I'll have so many clients who say, Logan, I went out with this guy.

He's everything I wanted on paper.

My parents would be obsessed with him.

He's Persian.

He's a doctor.

He went to the right school.

And I'm like, okay, I'm waiting for the butt.

And they're like, yeah, but when I spend time with him, he kind of makes me feel bad about myself.

And he's really into all of this

superficial stuff that I'm not into, but he's so good on paper.

And so I would say, take that checklist of what you think you should be looking for, tear it up, and instead make a new checklist of things to look for.