Logan Urie

And so what we found in our research is that the more that you're in the driver's seat, the more that you feel like you are pursuing people and that you're going after what you want, the less burned out you feel.

So this is something that I started noticing around 10 years ago where people feel like they want to date on their phone. And one of the main reasons is I know who's single. I know who might be interested. And if the person rejects me, it's way easier to just not hear back from someone than to have someone to your face say, I'm not interested. Well, I actually would take this a step deeper.

So this is something that I started noticing around 10 years ago where people feel like they want to date on their phone. And one of the main reasons is I know who's single. I know who might be interested. And if the person rejects me, it's way easier to just not hear back from someone than to have someone to your face say, I'm not interested. Well, I actually would take this a step deeper.

So this is something that I started noticing around 10 years ago where people feel like they want to date on their phone. And one of the main reasons is I know who's single. I know who might be interested. And if the person rejects me, it's way easier to just not hear back from someone than to have someone to your face say, I'm not interested. Well, I actually would take this a step deeper.

Yeah. So one thing I do want to say to Hannah is that's absolutely what I'm seeing in general. And I feel that this is something that we've really seen in our hinge research on Gen Z. And so I did a bunch of research with Gen Z. And if you look online, there's a lot of things about how they love dark humor and they're very nihilistic. And so I thought, oh, they're the most pragmatic generation.

Yeah. So one thing I do want to say to Hannah is that's absolutely what I'm seeing in general. And I feel that this is something that we've really seen in our hinge research on Gen Z. And so I did a bunch of research with Gen Z. And if you look online, there's a lot of things about how they love dark humor and they're very nihilistic. And so I thought, oh, they're the most pragmatic generation.

Yeah. So one thing I do want to say to Hannah is that's absolutely what I'm seeing in general. And I feel that this is something that we've really seen in our hinge research on Gen Z. And so I did a bunch of research with Gen Z. And if you look online, there's a lot of things about how they love dark humor and they're very nihilistic. And so I thought, oh, they're the most pragmatic generation.

They're not going to be that romantic, but that's not what we found. We found that Gen Z was actually 39% more likely than millennials to say that they believe in a soulmate and that there's one person out there for you. So we have this generation that's very idealistic and looking for their own rom-com. Yet at the same time, they're crippled by their fear of rejection.

They're not going to be that romantic, but that's not what we found. We found that Gen Z was actually 39% more likely than millennials to say that they believe in a soulmate and that there's one person out there for you. So we have this generation that's very idealistic and looking for their own rom-com. Yet at the same time, they're crippled by their fear of rejection.

They're not going to be that romantic, but that's not what we found. We found that Gen Z was actually 39% more likely than millennials to say that they believe in a soulmate and that there's one person out there for you. So we have this generation that's very idealistic and looking for their own rom-com. Yet at the same time, they're crippled by their fear of rejection.

And this was made even worse by the pandemic. And there's lots of research to support this, that they weren't having in-person conversations. They weren't dealing with conflict face-to-face. And so they want love, but many of them say that they're not willing to put themselves out there because of fear of rejection. Well, how the hell are you going to meet somebody if you won't put yourself out?

And this was made even worse by the pandemic. And there's lots of research to support this, that they weren't having in-person conversations. They weren't dealing with conflict face-to-face. And so they want love, but many of them say that they're not willing to put themselves out there because of fear of rejection. Well, how the hell are you going to meet somebody if you won't put yourself out?

And this was made even worse by the pandemic. And there's lots of research to support this, that they weren't having in-person conversations. They weren't dealing with conflict face-to-face. And so they want love, but many of them say that they're not willing to put themselves out there because of fear of rejection. Well, how the hell are you going to meet somebody if you won't put yourself out?

Exactly. And it doesn't matter if you first met on an app or if you first met through friends. Once you're on the date, you're on the date. Who cares how you met? And you need to have hard conversations. Who are you? What are you looking for? And so I really feel like something that I'm nervous about for people in the future is if you won't take risks, if you're not

Exactly. And it doesn't matter if you first met on an app or if you first met through friends. Once you're on the date, you're on the date. Who cares how you met? And you need to have hard conversations. Who are you? What are you looking for? And so I really feel like something that I'm nervous about for people in the future is if you won't take risks, if you're not

Exactly. And it doesn't matter if you first met on an app or if you first met through friends. Once you're on the date, you're on the date. Who cares how you met? And you need to have hard conversations. Who are you? What are you looking for? And so I really feel like something that I'm nervous about for people in the future is if you won't take risks, if you're not

willing to put yourself out there and get rejected? How are you ever going to get what you want? Do you see this with both men and women? Oh, yeah. This research was really across all genders, and we found that a lot of people are holding themselves back. 56% of people are not pursuing a particular romantic interest because of fear of rejection. Wow. even though they want it.

willing to put yourself out there and get rejected? How are you ever going to get what you want? Do you see this with both men and women? Oh, yeah. This research was really across all genders, and we found that a lot of people are holding themselves back. 56% of people are not pursuing a particular romantic interest because of fear of rejection. Wow. even though they want it.

willing to put yourself out there and get rejected? How are you ever going to get what you want? Do you see this with both men and women? Oh, yeah. This research was really across all genders, and we found that a lot of people are holding themselves back. 56% of people are not pursuing a particular romantic interest because of fear of rejection. Wow. even though they want it.

Yes, because do you know Sherry Turkle? She's a Harvard professor and she's been studying online behavior for a long time. And so I spoke to her about 10 years ago and she just talked about the fact that people now don't know how to have these hard conversations. They don't know how to apologize in person. They don't have to face the consequences.