Logan Urie

And did I feel captivated, bored, or something in between?

Yes.

There's a lot of ways in which this list can really help you shift who you go after because it helps identify those people who are good on paper, but who don't make you feel good about yourself.

If you do it after every date, it also helps you realize, oh, this is a slow burn person.

This is someone

who I'm liking more and more each date, even though they didn't initially spark, I'm going to invest more time in getting to know them.

And I feel like in dating, in your career, in your friend group, in where you live, so much is understanding what side of me does this situation bring out.

So if you get a job offer with a lot of money, but when you went to the interview, you felt insecure.

Nobody held the door open for you.

You dreaded it.

Yeah, the manager keeps talking about how cutthroat and testosterone-driven the place is.

Well, who cares how much money they offered you?

If you didn't feel comfortable in the interview, you're unlikely to feel comfortable in the job.

And so I think people do really need to work on this concept of paying attention to what side of you different situations bring out instead of just the things that are easy to measure, like how hot someone is or how much a job is offering you.

Yeah.

So a lot of people think that they need to have the spark and they write a lot of people off if they don't feel it.

But the research shows us that only 11% of couples experience love at first sight.

And for many people, it was this concept called the mere exposure effect.

The more you're around somebody, the more you start to like them.

That's why people end up marrying someone in their friend group or somebody that they work with.