Louise Eyrie

And that is generally, if I'm really honest with myself, is because there's something there that maybe I don't really want to have to think about or face or deal with.

But then actually it can be very useful to do so.

Because if you're a parent who's dealing with what you might think a difficult, a difficult phase with your children or you're at work and you're not, things aren't going great at work and, you know, you're not really interested in maybe what your boss or, you know, someone senior has to say to you, it can be quite hard to stop and take that beat and take things on board.

But actually, doesn't that feed into other aspects of our lives and personal workplace?

Like if you're pulled aside and someone has some comments to make about your performance and things, actually, isn't it good to go, okay, that's really interesting.

Can I go away and think about that?

You know, you're immediately removing yourself from getting defensive or from getting angry or from, you know, getting upset.

You can just give yourself an opportunity to walk away and think about it.

I mean, it sort of works across the board, I'd imagine.

Yeah.

Out of people that do come and get therapy, how many are coming for a personal problem, a work problem?

I don't know if you guys ever have a moment where you're able to kind of tally it up in a certain way, but...

Even just a friend that always has sort of has a backhanded compliment or just you just wonder if it's a, you know, yeah.

I love that.

Did you write that down?

Yes, I did.

Because I'm going to say to my children, I'd just like to say firmly, calmly and compassionately and dot, dot, dot, dot, dot.

What is happening psychologically to our brains when we hold on to self-critical thoughts or perceptions about ourselves?

It's interesting, though, working out what you feel that your child might need in that moment as well.

Because I can remember coming off, I think my son was about 12.