Lucy Biggers

But then I would think, well, maybe the people who are spreading the doom and gloom are smarter than me.

Like I'm optimistic, I'm positive about the state of the world,

well, I'm naive, right?

And so there's so many ways your mind plays tricks on you to keep you in the group.

And again, years of just giving up my voice to the group, even thinking like, well, I'm a white woman.

Who am I to say?

Which is so silly, but a lot of people live that way.

The identity politics keeps you in.

Yeah, it's very pervasive.

Yeah, losing friendships, although I feel like everyone whose friendship I lost obviously were not, like, they were my fake friends.

Like, they were, like, my colleagues and, like, sort of my, like, vaguer, like, social circle.

And so it was, I will say for anyone watching this today, maybe we need to leave a group.

It's really not actually as bad as you think because the people who are your true friends don't leave you.

And the people who leave you were never really your friends anyway.

It was superficial connection.

And on the other side...

of leaving something like this and reclaiming your power over your life and your truth and autonomy, it's so priceless.

It's really worth it.

It is.

Again, in the end, like the phones, like you can never turn it off, right?