Lucy Greenwell

Why doesn't Jess just ask?

When Jess talks about this, and we've discussed it a lot, she says that it's about trust.

Ever since the Facebook conversation back in 2010, when Jennifer denies knowing any more about her birth, Jess doesn't believe that she'll get the straight answers she wants.

If you're a foundling, you've suffered the ultimate rejection right at the start of your life.

Jess says that this just keeps on reverberating, this sense of being unwanted.

And when I look at it through this lens, Jess keeping her distance looks more like self-preservation.

And I think that would break my heart.

So I put pen to paper and I write to her.

I say I knew her as an eight-year-old kid.

I explain that we're telling Jess's story and I ask her if she wants to talk about the events of 1987.

I post it and then I wait.

Right, everyone in.

Squeeze in.

I take a picture.

Jess wants one for her album.

She's heading home now to her children.

There's a comfort in sticking with the family she knows, she tells me.

It's small and cosy.

It's where she belongs.

So we've spoken to witnesses and started collecting fragments to build a picture of Jennifer's life back in 1987.