Luisa Zisman

I loved being with my granddaughter, but honestly, it was terrible.

I have no relationship with any of my family besides my younger sister, even my mother, who she lives with.

So I truly was only there for my girls and she just didn't care.

I felt so lonely and isolated and just wanted to be back in New Zealand where I am loved and appreciated by my wife.

Since moving here, my wife and I have built an amazing life, bought a home, made new friends and are fully embracing everything New Zealand has to offer.

However, sometimes it's difficult to enjoy it because I'm wracked with mum guilt all the bloody time.

I feel terrible being away from my daughter and her baby and often have thoughts of whether I should move back despite knowing 100% that I do not want to live there and my wife would definitely not move back with me.

My daughter says I left her in the UK or that I'm choosing my wife over her and it just piles on the pressure.

In my heart, I know I have given everything I possibly could to my daughter, emotionally, physically and financially, but it just feels so shit most of the time.

Am I in the wrong for living a life that I love, a life that I deserve and a life I work bloody hard to get?

How can I repair my relationship with my daughter so we can both live the lives we want without feelings of guilt and grief being thrown at each other?

Please help.

I love Hannah.

I'm sort of along those lines.

I think to your point there, Lou, I mean, yeah, she's young, but she is an adult.

She's an adult.

She's a mother.

She's decided to have a child.

I think that's the thing.

I think your daughter has made those choices for herself.