Madeleine Dore
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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And I think that that can be really comforting to remember that we live in our day and nobody else's.
Potentially. People do, but I think that There's so many suggestions out there in terms of how to get more done. And there's some really helpful tips. There's some great systems that work for people. I found that when I was in pursuit of being perfectly productive, I found that the hacks and the time management techniques worked.
became something that was something that I tripped over or became even further entangled by because here was this promise, this solution, this hack will help you get more done, this hack will make you more successful and happier. And when I tried that and it still didn't work or I wasn't able to stick to it,
I fell further into the productivity spiral because then I sense that, oh, well now not only am I feeling I'm falling behind, but I'm also failing at this simple hack that's meant to be able to sort of offer this cure and solution. And so I found that again, this can contribute to the spiral. And so instead of looking for this one size fits all solution, It's about finding what works for you.
And it was a very freeing thing I found because those hacks can work for some people. And if it's working for you, that's fantastic. But if the issue comes when it doesn't work for you and you feel further entangled, perhaps that's a sign that you're looking in the wrong direction for the solution. And it really has to come back to finding what works for you.
Yes, I think the key to getting curious is definitely it requires a sense of being honest with ourselves. And so if you are spending that 20 minutes scrolling social media mindlessly, I think that it is about asking yourself whether that is a waste of time or whether maybe it is. Sometimes we need those moments of mindlessness and they have their place.
And again, acknowledging that we have been set up to fail here and that these platforms and these devices are do have a very addictive quality to them and so they're designed to distract us um but when it comes to tackling those distractions in our days again it's it's acknowledging that there's in an inevitability to them An antidote can actually be to apply attention to things.
And so rather than trying to eliminate distractions, I think that we would be chasing our tail all day if we're trying to do that, we can focus our attention instead. And one suggestion could potentially be to set an attention hour. And so that's where you... have this moment to really assess what you've been paying attention to.
So if you pay attention to what you're paying attention to, you'll actually really be able to see this inventory of your life and you'll be able to see whether it is, whether you're spending your time the way that you wish to. And perhaps instead of saying, okay, well, I'm going to eliminate that distraction of social media.
You can say, I'm going to pay my attention to cooking this beautiful meal for somebody or on this creative project that I really want to pursue.
Yes, there can be a real cult of busyness and busyness can be worn as this badge of honour. We ask people how they are and they often say busy. And I think that there's lots of different categories as well of busyness. Sometimes busyness is circumstantial. Sometimes busyness is something that we ignore.
have put in place because we find that we need the momentum at this point in our life, or it could be even our natural frequency. Some people are, they thrive off being busy. It's that sort of adage of ask a busy person to do something. And so, but then there's another category of busy where it is this badge of honour and they're busy to prove their sense of worth or to prove that they're
in demand or that their lives are are full and i think that that can be if it's your natural frequency and if it works for you then that's great i think that you'd find that those types of busy people aren't complaining about being busy it's those that are complaining about being busy and it's by their own design that perhaps is worth inspecting and it it differs from
being productive in terms of those moments of true productivity when we're engaged and when we're perhaps in flow and we have that element of that creative lens applied to it. But when we're just busy for busy's sake, we're crowding our schedules without really thinking about whether these things that we're doing are what we wish to be doing in the limited time that we have.
balance is often portrayed as the cure-all. It's a balance people say, or you just need to find a work-life balance. But when you think about balance, if you think of it as a scale, it's constantly balancing. There's no such thing as a perfect balance, because if there were, our lives in many ways would be stagnant. They'd be unmoving. And we're constantly balancing. And I think that
In many ways, I like to think of it as a wobble that we have in daily life. We wobble towards different priorities. Again, we might wobble towards different emergencies or interruptions that might occur in our day. And sometimes there's moments in our lives where different things take the priority. And so instead of finding this perfect balance where we're unmoving,
if we embrace the fact that we're constantly in flux and we do wobble within our days again maybe we could find some more kindness towards those wobbles rather than judging them and we could see that it's just part of the living and so we can sort of take this idea of balance off its pedestal because we will never really arrive and if we did maybe we'd find it's kind of dull anyway
Yes, it can feel electric, can't it, those days, Mike, where you do somehow manage to check it all off or the day unfolded in the order that you thought it would. And you feel like you're firing on all cylinders. It's a wonderful feeling. And I think that's perhaps why we chase productivity, because it does feel good on the days that we do the thing. But I think that it feels so good because...
In many ways, it's a small miracle of those days that they feel more enlivening because it doesn't happen every day. And so when they do happen, I think there should be a wonderful appreciation for them. But it's acknowledging that not every day is the same. And in many ways, we don't necessarily want that. that would become a groundhog day.
If what was once electric, if it happened day after day after day, it would lose its shimmer. And so I think we do want the variance and perhaps it's about finding what works for you to set up the day in a way that might put you in a position to have one of those days, but acknowledge that we also have days that that are littered with distractions and sometimes the day is just not our day.
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