Madeleine Finlay
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2,428 appearances
36 recordings
2 series
first heard Apr 2026
last heard 15 Sep
Madeleine Finlay’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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But the way that this was always done is asking in the context of our relationship to our friends or the general characteristics of our friends.
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And actually, our friendships sit in this wider social context.
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Context, there's a big complex network of people that we have around us, and those relationships are relevant as well.
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So, what these researchers did is they did a series of studies with around a thousand participants, and they asked the participants, how would you like your friend to behave towards not just yourself, but towards others as well, including strangers, and in particular,
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particular the participants rival.
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And what they found is we want our friends to be more vicious towards our enemies.
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Well, in the paper, they talk about this adaptationalist model of friendship.
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And basically what that means is do our friends have our back?
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So are they gonna help us out when we're ill, when we come into conflict, when we're in a spot of bother?
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And in that context, you can see why it would make sense that we want our enemies to be our friends' enemies as well.
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Because I'll give you an example.
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So imagine, Ian, that I have a foe who is sort of plotting my downfall.
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If my friend finds out about the plan and then doesn't tell me is kind and trustworthy to them instead of me, I'm in big trouble.
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You know, I want my friend to find out about the plot and viciously sabotage it.
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I don't think I have.
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I will admit that I think I'm a bit melodramatic when it comes to people who have wronged me.
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And I would say maybe I have an ongoing list of enemies.
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I hope they don't know that they're necessarily on the list.
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And I want my friends to kind of back me up in this.
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I wouldn't expect them to go into battle for me, but I think the point is there's a social bonding that comes.
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