Mark Baxter

One thing I encourage people to do sometimes is just the attachment quiz.

So there's a couple of great things online.

You can just do an attachment quiz and it shows you how you

you know, the patterns in which you relate to people you love and friends and things like that.

You know, that can give you some information.

And then they send you a PDF of different things you can start to do around that.

So, you know, there's a start, right?

Some things, mindfulness meditation, people start as a stress reduction tool, but it becomes over the years, it becomes a self-insight tool and a self-diagnosis tool.

You can go, oh, I'm noticing that this is what's happening for me.

It's coming up.

Yeah.

So there's that sort of technology.

And then for some things you can't do that with one mind.

Some things you need another nervous system and another mind so that you can kind of make sense.

It's too confusing or too emotional to do it by yourself.

And that's where therapy can kind of be important.

But yeah, like the last one I would say, the melting pot of all of this work is the intimate relationship.

So your partner, unfortunately, is your best therapist and your worst enemy.

Yeah.

Tricky dynamic at times.