Mark Groves

And I was like, wait, I've never made a decision more connected to my heart, like more brave for me to go against what I was taught. And now I'm actually like facing shame. And so that was like, I was, I had to do a deeper inquiry into it because I was so confused. And you start to see like, oh yeah, the behaviors that were taught about relationship are

And I was like, wait, I've never made a decision more connected to my heart, like more brave for me to go against what I was taught. And now I'm actually like facing shame. And so that was like, I was, I had to do a deeper inquiry into it because I was so confused. And you start to see like, oh yeah, the behaviors that were taught about relationship are

And I was like, wait, I've never made a decision more connected to my heart, like more brave for me to go against what I was taught. And now I'm actually like facing shame. And so that was like, I was, I had to do a deeper inquiry into it because I was so confused. And you start to see like, oh yeah, the behaviors that were taught about relationship are

a lot of the things we do relationally are just things we're taught. They're not even necessarily things we want to do, which is actually a bit of the mind F in that. So knowing that your worth is really sourced from your choices. So whenever I work with someone, One of the first things we do is just like explore where their frustrations are in their life.

a lot of the things we do relationally are just things we're taught. They're not even necessarily things we want to do, which is actually a bit of the mind F in that. So knowing that your worth is really sourced from your choices. So whenever I work with someone, One of the first things we do is just like explore where their frustrations are in their life.

a lot of the things we do relationally are just things we're taught. They're not even necessarily things we want to do, which is actually a bit of the mind F in that. So knowing that your worth is really sourced from your choices. So whenever I work with someone, One of the first things we do is just like explore where their frustrations are in their life.

And frustrations don't have to be romantic. What I look at is where does tension exist in anything you're in relationship with? So you're in relationship with everything that's not you. So substances, people, TV, right? All of it. And where does friction exist in those relationships? And it goes, okay, well, what do you value? Like, who do you want to be? What do you want for your life?

And frustrations don't have to be romantic. What I look at is where does tension exist in anything you're in relationship with? So you're in relationship with everything that's not you. So substances, people, TV, right? All of it. And where does friction exist in those relationships? And it goes, okay, well, what do you value? Like, who do you want to be? What do you want for your life?

And frustrations don't have to be romantic. What I look at is where does tension exist in anything you're in relationship with? So you're in relationship with everything that's not you. So substances, people, TV, right? All of it. And where does friction exist in those relationships? And it goes, okay, well, what do you value? Like, who do you want to be? What do you want for your life?

And a simple way for people to do that, which I would say anxious attached people have a harder time identifying their needs and their values because they spent their whole lives orienting around other people. Right. So, and you know, what I'll often hear initially is I can't believe I don't know what I want or who I am or what I need. And I'm like, beautiful adventure.

And a simple way for people to do that, which I would say anxious attached people have a harder time identifying their needs and their values because they spent their whole lives orienting around other people. Right. So, and you know, what I'll often hear initially is I can't believe I don't know what I want or who I am or what I need. And I'm like, beautiful adventure.

And a simple way for people to do that, which I would say anxious attached people have a harder time identifying their needs and their values because they spent their whole lives orienting around other people. Right. So, and you know, what I'll often hear initially is I can't believe I don't know what I want or who I am or what I need. And I'm like, beautiful adventure.

Like what a beautiful adventure. It's not, again, evidence of a deficit. It's evidence of a possibility. So by looking at people you admire, you can identify values that you hope to hold. And then you look at the things you have friction with because the friction and the pain or the frustration is coming from you violating some form of value. You just haven't labeled it yet.

Like what a beautiful adventure. It's not, again, evidence of a deficit. It's evidence of a possibility. So by looking at people you admire, you can identify values that you hope to hold. And then you look at the things you have friction with because the friction and the pain or the frustration is coming from you violating some form of value. You just haven't labeled it yet.

Like what a beautiful adventure. It's not, again, evidence of a deficit. It's evidence of a possibility. So by looking at people you admire, you can identify values that you hope to hold. And then you look at the things you have friction with because the friction and the pain or the frustration is coming from you violating some form of value. You just haven't labeled it yet.

And so when you draw out or just write out three to five core values, which I would say like there's some pretty universal ones, you know, like I want health and vitality in all my relationships, both mental, physical, emotional. I want trust and truth and integrity and, you know, among many others. And

And so when you draw out or just write out three to five core values, which I would say like there's some pretty universal ones, you know, like I want health and vitality in all my relationships, both mental, physical, emotional. I want trust and truth and integrity and, you know, among many others. And

And so when you draw out or just write out three to five core values, which I would say like there's some pretty universal ones, you know, like I want health and vitality in all my relationships, both mental, physical, emotional. I want trust and truth and integrity and, you know, among many others. And

When you actually go through the list of things that are frustrating you, you can write out in which of my values is this in violation of, how, and what would need to change in, is it even possible for that relationship to get into integrity? To me, I'm like, that's actually, if you wanna love your life, that's the process. Go get all those things into alignment and you're free.

When you actually go through the list of things that are frustrating you, you can write out in which of my values is this in violation of, how, and what would need to change in, is it even possible for that relationship to get into integrity? To me, I'm like, that's actually, if you wanna love your life, that's the process. Go get all those things into alignment and you're free.