Mark Groves

Ideally the person who keeps getting because that's you know, some form of breadcrumbing It's like I'm never going to be fully aligned with you and I think for people who are really felt inconsistency from a parent, that becomes just a familiar model. Like, it's like activating the wound. Will I ever be enough for you to fully choose me?

Ideally the person who keeps getting because that's you know, some form of breadcrumbing It's like I'm never going to be fully aligned with you and I think for people who are really felt inconsistency from a parent, that becomes just a familiar model. Like, it's like activating the wound. Will I ever be enough for you to fully choose me?

Instead of really like the healing of that is, will I ever be enough for me to fully choose me? And then breadcrumbing becomes this like, are you really trying to pull that shit on me? You're gonna breadcrumb me? Like, hell no. Thank you for showing me who you are. I have zero time for it and zero tolerance for inconsistency, because I am the model of my own consistency.

Instead of really like the healing of that is, will I ever be enough for me to fully choose me? And then breadcrumbing becomes this like, are you really trying to pull that shit on me? You're gonna breadcrumb me? Like, hell no. Thank you for showing me who you are. I have zero time for it and zero tolerance for inconsistency, because I am the model of my own consistency.

Instead of really like the healing of that is, will I ever be enough for me to fully choose me? And then breadcrumbing becomes this like, are you really trying to pull that shit on me? You're gonna breadcrumb me? Like, hell no. Thank you for showing me who you are. I have zero time for it and zero tolerance for inconsistency, because I am the model of my own consistency.

Yeah, you know, the root of what brings us to work like the work we're talking about, personal work, personal growth, books, somatic therapy, all of it, usually comes from this experience, right? We go, oh, I'm like frustrated dating, or I'm not sure if I should stay or go, or I just going through a breakup and I feel like I've lost everything.

Yeah, you know, the root of what brings us to work like the work we're talking about, personal work, personal growth, books, somatic therapy, all of it, usually comes from this experience, right? We go, oh, I'm like frustrated dating, or I'm not sure if I should stay or go, or I just going through a breakup and I feel like I've lost everything.

Yeah, you know, the root of what brings us to work like the work we're talking about, personal work, personal growth, books, somatic therapy, all of it, usually comes from this experience, right? We go, oh, I'm like frustrated dating, or I'm not sure if I should stay or go, or I just going through a breakup and I feel like I've lost everything.

So the doorway is usually the perspective that something's wrong with me and I need to fix it. But what has to change in that process is that it's not that there's something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. Because if I'm fixing something, that infers brokenness. And so at some point, your growth has to come from a place of expansion, not repair.

So the doorway is usually the perspective that something's wrong with me and I need to fix it. But what has to change in that process is that it's not that there's something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. Because if I'm fixing something, that infers brokenness. And so at some point, your growth has to come from a place of expansion, not repair.

So the doorway is usually the perspective that something's wrong with me and I need to fix it. But what has to change in that process is that it's not that there's something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. Because if I'm fixing something, that infers brokenness. And so at some point, your growth has to come from a place of expansion, not repair.

And what I mean by that is that the child sees that the failure of the environment is about the failure of the child. So like the child has two options. My dad was inconsistent because I wasn't enough for him to be consistent or my dad is just not good. To think of your father or your mother or both as being flawed is too confronting.

And what I mean by that is that the child sees that the failure of the environment is about the failure of the child. So like the child has two options. My dad was inconsistent because I wasn't enough for him to be consistent or my dad is just not good. To think of your father or your mother or both as being flawed is too confronting.

And what I mean by that is that the child sees that the failure of the environment is about the failure of the child. So like the child has two options. My dad was inconsistent because I wasn't enough for him to be consistent or my dad is just not good. To think of your father or your mother or both as being flawed is too confronting.

So what happens is the child creates a narrative that they themselves are. So just knowing that, that like, oh, wow, do I see, as you said earlier, like, do I see their behavior as evidence of my lack of worth or my dysfunction? Or do I see it as their behavior? And so we start to decouple our self-worth from our relational outcomes.

So what happens is the child creates a narrative that they themselves are. So just knowing that, that like, oh, wow, do I see, as you said earlier, like, do I see their behavior as evidence of my lack of worth or my dysfunction? Or do I see it as their behavior? And so we start to decouple our self-worth from our relational outcomes.

So what happens is the child creates a narrative that they themselves are. So just knowing that, that like, oh, wow, do I see, as you said earlier, like, do I see their behavior as evidence of my lack of worth or my dysfunction? Or do I see it as their behavior? And so we start to decouple our self-worth from our relational outcomes.

This is like really where the birth of my work came from was that I went through a breakup and I was like, why do I feel more connected to my heart than I ever have? And yet I appear like a failure to the people around me. Like to a lot of the people I loved most, they were like, oh, you're just afraid of commitment. You're just this, you're just that.

This is like really where the birth of my work came from was that I went through a breakup and I was like, why do I feel more connected to my heart than I ever have? And yet I appear like a failure to the people around me. Like to a lot of the people I loved most, they were like, oh, you're just afraid of commitment. You're just this, you're just that.

This is like really where the birth of my work came from was that I went through a breakup and I was like, why do I feel more connected to my heart than I ever have? And yet I appear like a failure to the people around me. Like to a lot of the people I loved most, they were like, oh, you're just afraid of commitment. You're just this, you're just that.