Mark Groves

When you actually go through the list of things that are frustrating you, you can write out in which of my values is this in violation of, how, and what would need to change in, is it even possible for that relationship to get into integrity? To me, I'm like, that's actually, if you wanna love your life, that's the process. Go get all those things into alignment and you're free.

Like, it's actually that simple. Except what's scary is the large conversations that often have to happen to shift yourself back into integrity if you've ever even been there.

Like, it's actually that simple. Except what's scary is the large conversations that often have to happen to shift yourself back into integrity if you've ever even been there.

Like, it's actually that simple. Except what's scary is the large conversations that often have to happen to shift yourself back into integrity if you've ever even been there.

Which, you know, when you've built a life being someone different than who you are, then to actually create a life based on who you truly are, it requires the systems that you've been part of to orient around a new version of you. And as you know very well, almost every single human system will push back on the thing that's trying to change the system.

Which, you know, when you've built a life being someone different than who you are, then to actually create a life based on who you truly are, it requires the systems that you've been part of to orient around a new version of you. And as you know very well, almost every single human system will push back on the thing that's trying to change the system.

Which, you know, when you've built a life being someone different than who you are, then to actually create a life based on who you truly are, it requires the systems that you've been part of to orient around a new version of you. And as you know very well, almost every single human system will push back on the thing that's trying to change the system.

So if you have a family that never confronted mom's alcoholism and all of a sudden you're like, hey, did anyone notice this shit that's going on over here? Like we can't have Thanksgiving dinner without mom slurring words and saying rude things. All of a sudden the system goes, whoa, whoa, whoa. And so I always,

So if you have a family that never confronted mom's alcoholism and all of a sudden you're like, hey, did anyone notice this shit that's going on over here? Like we can't have Thanksgiving dinner without mom slurring words and saying rude things. All of a sudden the system goes, whoa, whoa, whoa. And so I always,

So if you have a family that never confronted mom's alcoholism and all of a sudden you're like, hey, did anyone notice this shit that's going on over here? Like we can't have Thanksgiving dinner without mom slurring words and saying rude things. All of a sudden the system goes, whoa, whoa, whoa. And so I always,

you know, joke that the black sheep of the family eventually becomes the goat, which is not actually possible from an animal-based perspective, but from a metaphorical archetypal perspective it is, is that the black sheep disrupts the family system and then becomes a beacon of health for the system to orient around a different way of being.

you know, joke that the black sheep of the family eventually becomes the goat, which is not actually possible from an animal-based perspective, but from a metaphorical archetypal perspective it is, is that the black sheep disrupts the family system and then becomes a beacon of health for the system to orient around a different way of being.

you know, joke that the black sheep of the family eventually becomes the goat, which is not actually possible from an animal-based perspective, but from a metaphorical archetypal perspective it is, is that the black sheep disrupts the family system and then becomes a beacon of health for the system to orient around a different way of being.

And thank God you don't need other people to do the work for you to heal. And going right to when someone's like, I need to have a conversation with my mom. That's the first thing I need to do. I'm like, maybe don't start with mom. Start with that I can't do dinner on Friday with a friend. Start with a small boundary. Because at the core of even

And thank God you don't need other people to do the work for you to heal. And going right to when someone's like, I need to have a conversation with my mom. That's the first thing I need to do. I'm like, maybe don't start with mom. Start with that I can't do dinner on Friday with a friend. Start with a small boundary. Because at the core of even

And thank God you don't need other people to do the work for you to heal. And going right to when someone's like, I need to have a conversation with my mom. That's the first thing I need to do. I'm like, maybe don't start with mom. Start with that I can't do dinner on Friday with a friend. Start with a small boundary. Because at the core of even

know getting into regulation again from a nervous system perspective if you've spent your life hyper vigilant or even avoidant you know it's like disorganized like any of these different states because avoidance is flight too you know so for people to understand that if you've spent your life like that and all of a sudden you start doing yoga and hanging out with relaxed people

know getting into regulation again from a nervous system perspective if you've spent your life hyper vigilant or even avoidant you know it's like disorganized like any of these different states because avoidance is flight too you know so for people to understand that if you've spent your life like that and all of a sudden you start doing yoga and hanging out with relaxed people

know getting into regulation again from a nervous system perspective if you've spent your life hyper vigilant or even avoidant you know it's like disorganized like any of these different states because avoidance is flight too you know so for people to understand that if you've spent your life like that and all of a sudden you start doing yoga and hanging out with relaxed people

And you're like, man, and you maybe go on dates and someone texts you when they say they're going to. And you're like, what? This is kind of weird. This is boring. Yeah, exactly. When you get regulated, you'll see that reliability is the hottest shit ever. But what happens to the system is that as it reorganizes, so if I've never laid a boundary, the first time I lay a boundary is a Hail Mary.